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Thu, 28 Feb 2013 15:36:29 -0500

spotless mind.: pisces chicks. i 4got the source but its so onpoint.

Thu, 28 Feb 2013 15:35:28 -0500

spotless mind.: pisces chicks. i 4got the source but its so onpoint.:

Piscean women choose lovers that tend to be of two opposing types. She often finds herself attracted to emotionally insecure or wounded guys that she can nurture and “mother”. She also falls for the opposite type of partner—one who is virile, masculine, with a strong sense of self-determination…

"Fact All Pisces tend to be psychic, whether they are aware of it or not. When a Pisces woman meets..."

Thu, 07 Feb 2013 21:08:06 -0500

“Fact
All Pisces tend to be psychic, whether they are aware of it or not. When a Pisces woman meets someone, she knows intuitively whether the attraction will lead to sex or not. She may dance around the question for some time, but sooner or later the Piscean charm and sympathetic vibrations will lasso her lover, and both will enjoy the result.”

- http://www.netplaces.com/sex-signs/pisces/the-pisces-woman.htm (via thatsmysweetlipss)

True…<3

Thu, 07 Feb 2013 21:07:30 -0500

True…<3

Excuses, Excuses

Sat, 03 Nov 2012 23:35:38 -0400

Too many times have I heard that the reason why a person makes fucked up decispasions is because of a past experience. I don’t give a damn what anyone say. Your past should not influence your present or your future in a negative manner, and sadly that is the problem of may people today.

One of my best friends is associated with quite a few people that I do not care for, for justifiable reasons. One of them are so immature that I do not have the patience to put up with her, not to mention, she has some messed up ways that she’s refuses to realize, accept, and grow from. The other one betrayed me, and one thing about me is that when you cross me, I highly doubt that i will ever trust you again, therefore there is no need for me and you to be in contact, and since we have graduated high school, it’s been going pretty good.

However, through the years I have noticed something about this friend. Both of the individuals that I am talking about, are full grown women, one of them has a child and has been married, the other one graduated college and is working, yet both of these women are the first ones to start shit, but when it comes down to dealing with the consequences, my friend has a very bad habit of babying them instead of letting them face their mistakes,and learn. With both individuals, I have had disagreements. And instead of telling both of us that we were wrong, she would only tell me, and yes, I told her that (1) it was not fair nor was it right and (2) she needs to stop sugarcoating shit and let them be grown ass women. Although she is not their mother, they obviously admire her and respect her. However, they admire and respect her because she tells them what they want to hear instead of the cold, hard truth, something that they are too weak to handle and something that they refuse to become stronger for. And yes it pisses me the fuck off.

One day, I brought up my view on these individuals, mainly the one who betrayed me. For the first time since me and this person parted ways, I expressed how hurt and betrayed I felt and how I didn’t understand why she had done what she done. The only “excuse” that my friend came up with, “She’s been hurt a lot in the past. A lot of people have abandoned her.” Excuse me??? Who hasn’t been hurt in the past?!? Who hasn’t been abondoned by someone that they loved?!?!? She isn’t the first and she damn sure won’t be the last! I have been hurt! I have been abandoned! But I didn’t let those mistakes from other people ruin my relationships with people in my present. As long as you didn;’t do anything to me that was unforgivable, I would stand right by your side, and whatever you went through, I’d be right there with you! I would not start trouble between two people, I would not lie on another person, I wouldn’t betray you even if you gave me a reason to! But that was her excuse or her so called reasoning of why these two females do what they do. Maybe she feels the need to baby them because I’m mentally and emotionally stronger. However, I was once fragile like them. I got mentally and emotionally stronger because my friends told me when I was wrong. I saw another person act the exact same way that I was acting, I saw the consequences, and realized that I didn’t want to deal with those consequences. I also realized that those consequences were avoidable. And within time I grew up. I look back now, and I realize how emotionally and mentally weak I was. We all have been at a mentally and emotionally weak point. But I look at myself now, and I see how much I have been through and how I overcame it. And I’m poroud of myself. I owe that to those who loved me enough to give me tough love, give me a wake up call.

Do I think that my friend is bad friend, absolutely not. Do I think that she has another wake up call coming her way, yes I do.

Word Of Advice to the Men......

Fri, 02 Nov 2012 21:33:10 -0400

Men, if you ever meet a girl that keeps it real with you from minute one, APPRECIATE AND RESPECT her for it, because sadly not too many females with the honest trait rarely exist.

Now the point of this blog is to bring to attention the main mistake that men make. There are some men who have been hurt by other women, and you’re not being blamed for that because like us females, you have feelings as well. and I personally do not respect the type of females that have a good man but find some way to fuck it up. However, just as you hate it when we punish you for the last man’s mistake, we hate it when you punish us for the last woman’s mistake.

A lot can be revealed about a man through the type of woman that he pursues. So when a man chooses to make a hoodrat his wife, that tells you that he has no standards, he’s afraid of a challenge therefore he’ll settle for less because he’s too lazy and intimidated to find better. But when a man chooses a respectful woman to be his wife, he enjoys the challenge. He’s aware that there are plenty of women around him, but there is only one that can keep his attention. He’s attracted to not what is between her thighs, but the story in her eyes, the pureness of her heart, and the existence of her soul. He knows that any man can walk up to her and ask for her number, but he trusts her to know what she has at home.

So what baffles me is why so some of these men pursue the type of women that’s about drama and nonsense? Why when you meet a good woman, you lie to her to make yourself look good? The thing that we find most attractive about a man is his ability to be honest. That’s what we admire, Regardless if whether or not we get upset when you tell the truth, at the end of the day when we think back to it, we respect you more for it. That tells us that you can be trusted. As someone once told me, trust is earned, not given.

Which leads me into the nest subject. If you want to earn someone’s trust, WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU LIE TO THEM!?!?! You cannot expect to earn that person’s trust when you’re lying about the dumbest shit. If a woman is giving you the chance to be honest with her, why not take it? Why continue to lie to make yourself look good because at the end of the day, you’ll look even worse in that person’s eyes. Be reminded, not all women are hoodrats, not all women are bitches. There are some of us who are womb-worthy. There are some of us who are loyal. There are some of us who’ll love no matter what you have done in your past. But you have a tendency to fuck up what could be because you can’t be honest.

Just like some of us can be loyal and womb worthy, some of us realize our worth and can leave your ass quicker than we came to you. So before you allow a lie to leave your mouth, make sure that another good woman is within your reach, and consider whether or not you really want to let a good woman go. Just a word of advice to the men…..

After A While, Not Caring Is Your Only Option

Sun, 28 Oct 2012 22:14:20 -0400

A woman’s biggest problem could be that she cares absolutely too much for someone and that same person that she cares so much for could give a f*ck less about her. It’s sad, but true.

You would think that when you have someone, whether you’re just friends or in a relationship, you would appreciate them and cherish them. Yet, in your mind, they’re not going anywhere. You think that just because someone cares for you, he/she will continue to take your bullsh*t and you fail to realize that all people come to a point where they can give a f*ck less and just up and leave. Then you have the nerve to have an attitude because that person had the strength to get up and leave your ass.

One thing that I hate are people that are so full of themselves that they think that they can have anyone in the world. They claim that they prefer this type of woman, or this type of man, then you turn around and they done laid down and f*cked the lowest piece of sh*t on the damn earth. Then have the nerve to try to itch around and ask you who have you dealt with since you and him/her have parted ways. Where was all of this concern when you had me? Because I damn sure couldn’t see it!

There comes a point in time when you’re tired of getting your feelings hurt. People have a tendency to say one thing yet their actions don’t measure up to their words. And when you see this person, it’s nothing but answerless questions floating inside your head. Your only wish at that moment is for those questions to be answered.

I don’t believe in chasing anybody because I shouldn’t have to therefore I will not. I don’t kiss anyone’s ass because I don’t see anyone kissing mine, nor would I expect them to because I wouldn’t respect them for it. I respect people who have a backbone. I respect people who stand by their words and actions. I respect people who don’t bullsh*t me and I definitely respect people who respect me not only for the type of person that I am, but for the type of heart that I have.

These Hoes Are A Trip & These N*ggas Give The Rides

Sat, 13 Oct 2012 23:54:05 -0400

Never in my life did I think that such immoralistic people existed.

There are too many diseases out here for people to just be rolling around in the bedroom with in and everybody. In my book, gender doesn’t even matter because an STD will be an STD regardless of who it infects.

But what I don’t understand about some people is how can you be a mother to children, especially to a teenager and spread your legs for in and everybody? I don’t understand that. When you become a parent, your reputation is no longer your reputation, it’s your children’s as well, because just as everything that your children do reflects on you, everything you do reflects on your children. And what really makes me laugh is how tough these so called “women” are over a social networking site, yet they see you in person, you can hear a rat pissing on a sidewalk, they’re so quiet.

How can you be over 21 years old, actually think that it’s cute and fun and smart to sleep with every guy that literally asks you to sleep with him? How can you think that it’s cute to not have a high school diploma at least? Some of these females actually think that it’s cute to sit on their ass all day and depend on public assistance to care for themselves and their children. Hate to break it to you dummies but that welfare check only go but so far. So when the first of the month comes around, instead of buying Prada jeans, Dolce & Gabbana, Vera Wang, all of the expensive clothing, maybe you should actually budget your money so that all of your bills are paid and make sure that your children are well taken care of. Get up off your ass, get your GED, and actually make an effort to better yourself not only for your kids but for yourself as well. Selling your body is not the way to go. You actually make it easy for these bums.

To the men, ya’ll not making it no better and you’re definitely losing credibility and respect from the loyal females that you so called wish you had. Word of advice, if you want a loyal female, a woman who’ll motivate you, push you to achieve the goals that you have set for yourself, she’ll hold you down with all she has, if you a woman like that, STOP MESSING WITH THESE HOES!! Not all p*ssy is good p*ssy, just because it looks nice and plump on the outside does not mean that it’s the cleanest. Then to top it off, you don’t even use protection! But you ready to cuss the female out and cause harm to her because she’s the one that gave it to you. But answer the question, who the fool that wanted the p*ssy so damn bad that he didn’t want to wear a condom? DING, DING, DING, oh wait that’s YOU! Just as us females have to keep in mind that just because a d*ck is big doesn’t mean it’s clean, you have to keep in mind the same concept with a female. Females are scandalous! I already know that you go after these hoes because their easy but you know what that says to the good women? That you’re not a man because you’re too afraid of a challenge. You just want to jump head first into the deepest end of the ocean without learning how to swim. Then when you’re drowning, that’s when you want to call on the good woman to save you but you cuss the hoe that put you there. Life doesn’t work that way. No sex is worth risking your life and well being. Be careful who you sleep with or you life can change in a way that you may not be able to handle.

Don't We All Want A Good Woman/Good Man??

Sat, 08 Sep 2012 21:35:36 -0400

The most common thing that I hear from both men and women concerning relationships is “I want a good woman” or “I want a good man.” So answer me this, why is it that when you have a good woman/man, you don’t appreciate him/her. I know men and women who’ve had good women/men and f*cked up in the worst possible ways. Then when it comes back and bites them in the ass, they try to place all the blame on the other person.

Oh, and let’s not forget how some people like to place all men and women in the same category.

NEWSFLASH!! Not all men are the same and not all women are the same. DO NOT categorize all men and women in the same group.

LADIES! Not all men are dogs. Not all men are after sex. There are some men who are very particular of the women they have sex with. There are some men who would rather hear about your day then hear and talk about how nice and fat another woman’s ass is. There are some men who would rather hold you and watch you sleep or take a nap with you then just strip your clothes off and just jump right into it. There are some men who would rather push you and support you in your goals and ambitions then to criticize you and talk down to you as if you are nothing. I’ve seen females who have good men, the type of man that I want for myself and these same females be out here hoeing around, cheating on their men, claiming that they love them and yet feel no remorse for what they do. Then they lose the man, want to cry and boo hoo and what not, they cursing the man, wondering why he left. Yet they don’t realize that it’s their actions! People have this mindframe that when you love someone, you have to put up with their bullshit. THAT IS FALSE! Because if that person really loved you, he/she would not do anything to hurt you. When we love someone, yes we tolerate them because anyone that has any common sense knows that a relationship is a give and take. You have to take the good with the bad. However, there comes that point in time when you have to draw that line. It’s up to you when you want to draw it.

MEN!!! Not all women are hoes, not all women are jumps and not all women are golddiggers. Some of us just want your time. Some of us just want your affection. Some of us just want to hear your voice. Some of us aren’t trying to use you. Some of us don’t jump from man to man. Some of us are not vindictive, sneaky or manipulative. Some of us would rather cook a nice, home cooked meal for you then go out and have you pay a high ass bill for the very same meals that we can cook. Some of us would rather be snuggled up with you on the couch then going out to a club. Some of us would rather support you when you’re down, and push you when you need to be pushed to accomplish your girls. Hell, even if you aren’t with us and we do things for you, we don’t bring it back up in your face because it came from our hearts, not to get brownie points. Just like I’m seeing women taking their good men for granted, I’m seeing the same things with the men! Forgive us for not being willing to take half naked pictures of ourselves and posting it on Facebook for attention. Forgive us for having standards because we know that we deserve better. Forgive us for wanting nothing from you but the truth. The same way that some of you want us to be truthful with you, we want the same in return. Everyone has their own definitions of what a perfect relationship is. But there is no perfect relationship. A relationship is the BEST relationship when both parties are 100% honest with each other.

Ladies, yes we want a man who will love and cherish us for who we are. BUT, we need to stop going after the assholes who would rather chase hoes but use us for what we can give them. Keep in mind that all men are not assholes. If a man asks you out on a date and you have an amazing chemistry, why not accept it? Take a chance. You never know what type of man you may be blessed with.

Men, you guys want a woman that loves and appreciates you right? Well I’m going to keep it real with you. Stop chasing these hoes and fast ass little girls because they’re easy. Actually challenge yourself and be willing to wait. Be willing to get to know a female intellectually and learn about her just as she would want to learn about you. Most men that I know what to have kids. The challenge that you could possibly be afraid of could be the mother of your future children and your future wife.

The Violence Needs to STOP!

Tue, 17 Jul 2012 11:12:41 -0400

It seems like everyday when I read the news, someone is shot and/or someone is killed. No, it IS everyday that someone is shot and/or killed. And honestly I’m getting tired of it. I have three siblings coming up after me. Whenever I read these news stories, the ages of black youth are getting younger and younger and it’s saddening. Either the victims are innocent bystanders, they were shot/killed purposely over something stupid, or they are in that type of lifestyle. People are getting killed for money, over females/males that aren’t about sh*t, hell, people are getting killed just for standing their ground. It’s getting ridiculous. It needs to stop. This isn’t the 1930’s or 40’s and so one anymore. THIS IS 2012!! We already have enough ignorance with racism. Why continue the ignorance with blacks killing blacks. I’m not making it a race issue, just stating facts. How many times do you read or hear about a white person killing another white person over money or drugs or a significant other? How often do you read about other races/ethnicities killing each other? You hear it, but it’s rare. I’m not saying that violence doesn’t happen within other races because it does. You’d be surprised at the statistics. But speaking as a young African American woman, one who has faced some of life’s obstacles, one who has been looked down upon just for being black, I’m tired of violence happening in my race. We’ve been the victim for too long. It’s time for us to get over being the victim and start doing better for ourselves. It all starts within you.

Sexual Frustration: knock knock

Sat, 07 Jul 2012 13:15:04 -0400

Sexual Frustration: knock knock
Me: who's there?
Sexual Frustration: Sexual frustration
Me: fuck.
Sexual Frustration: exactly.

A Mother and Her Eldest Daughter

Thu, 05 Jul 2012 13:34:48 -0400

I remember when I was watching an episode of “Keyshia Cole: The Way It Is,” during the scene of the family counseling session, either Neffe or Frankie said that a mother’s relationship with her eldest daughter is always the hardest. I agreed with her then, but I definitely agree with her now.

I am the eldest child of four children and eldest daughter out of three. As I had stated in a previous post, I have been helping my mother with my younger siblings since I was 14 years old. As I got older, I began to help her with bills and/or whatever else she needed. I never really got the chance to experience life until my late teens/ early twenties. And I’m still in my early twenties now. I’ve devoted my time, energy, and whenever I got it, money to my mother and my siblings.

Also, as I had stated in a previous post, I’m ready to start living my life for myself. You could say this is a downfall in the relationship between me and mother.

I understand that when a mother has her first born, it’s a special bond. It is a bond that cannot be shared the second, third, or even the fourth born. The first born is the first child that will learn from his/her parent. And this is also the firsy child that will eventually venture out into his/her own life. It is understandable that it is hard to let go of your child, especially your daughter. Your daughter will (if she hasn’t already) grow into a grown beautiful woman just like you. She will experience life’s hardest lessons, and as much as you may want to grab her and protect her, YOU CAN’T. Just as you had to learn your lessons, she has to learn hers as well. How will she prepare your future granddaughter for life’s lessons if she hasn’t.

In reality, all you can do is raise your daughter the best way that you know how. You don’t have to be perfect because there is not one perfect parent in this world. Instill the values that you were taught. If you enforce, trust and believe it will stick with your daughter. She may even repeat it to you LOL. I know I’ve repeated it to my mother and most of the time she doesn’t want to hear it.

Another thing to keep in mind is that although your daughter is a part of you and will possess some of your traits, she is not you. She is her own person and she is trying to create her own path for life. You may not agree with the things that she may do when she is an adult, but she is an adult, which means that whatever she does, she is liable for. Don’t judge her, don’t hit her with low blows. Let her know when she’s wrong of course, but also let it be known that you’re in her corner. No matter what she does in life, she is still your daughter. Of course she’s going to make mistakes, that’s part of life. But don’t make her feel like she’s less of a person because of her actions. People who don’t know her are already doing that, and that alone may or may not bother her. But if she hears that from her own mother, IT WILL bother her, more than you’ll ever know.

Be Appreciative But Don't Take Advantage

Sat, 30 Jun 2012 13:26:50 -0400

One thing that I hate about being a big-hearted person is that it somehow throws me in a fire that takes a while a put out.

For too many people, I have put my neck on the line and although they may claim that they appreciate it, sometimes I feel that they have taken advantage.

Yet, when I mention how I would like to start living for myself and living my own life, that’s when I get attitudes and to be honest it is pissing me off.

An example would be my mother. Ever since I was 14, I have put my mother and my siblings before myself. I basically gave up my childhood. I saw my mother struggling and unlike other girls I went to school with, I stepped up and helped her. As I got older, more and more was placed upon me while less and less was placed upon her. I’m 22 years old, I’ll be graduating college come May 2013. For years I’ve put my ambition and eagerness to succeed first, and now I want to live. This morning, while having a discussion about my younger brother, I brought up to my mother how my younger sister who is 14 years old, is kind of taking over the role as the big sister. With the mention of that, I noticed how my mother’s whole demeanor just changed. Just the thought of me living my own life somehow gets to my mother. I understand that I’m her eldest daughter, I’m the only one who has made it my mission to always help my mother the best way I can, but she has to let me go! I cannot be under my mother all the time. She’s lived her life. She has four beautiful children, she’s loved, she’s lossed, she’s experienced. She’s learned life’s most valuable lessons. She’s lived on her own. She’s achieved. Why can’t I have the same for myself?

This goes back to the title, be appreciative always because those who have helped you, didn’t have to help you. But don’t get comfortable and don’t take advantage. In a way, I feel that my mother takes advantage of what I do for her, because just the mention of me moving out upsetted her. I’m not saying that I didn’t take advantage of my mother because I have. I’m not saying that I’m not appreciative because I am BEYOND appreciative. However, as a 22 year old, yes I’m living in my mother’s home, but I don’t ask my mother for anything. She offers and I take. But I also give. I gave my teenage years, the years that I should have been being rebellious, to take care of my siblings and my mother. I’ve looked out for everybody else but I never took the time to look out for myself. With what my mother do for me, I don’t take advantage of because my well being is not my mother’s concern anymore, it’s mine. I’m old enough to know better and I’m old enough to make my own decisions. I’m old enough to be my own person and I’m old enough to live my life and to see what is out there.

Reality Check For The Ladies

Mon, 25 Jun 2012 14:46:00 -0400

I hear too many times and I myself has said this many times due to my experiences, that men need to appreciate the good women out here because not too many of us exist. We’re a rare breed. You don’t see too many females sticking by a man during his worse times anymore. Some of these females are out here for a man’s money and/or whatever he can give her. But just as men need to be appreciative of the good women, women need to be appreciative of the good men, because like the good women, THEY ARE A RARE BREED.

Lately I’ve been seeing and hearing a lot about women mistreating men and it is pissing me the hell off! Reality check ladies, if a man is sticking by your side, lifting you up when you’re down, putting you on a pedastal even if you don’t deserve, treating you like the queen you’re presenting yourself to be, HE IS A KEEPER! There was a time when a friend of mine was dating a keeper. This man took his ENTIRE paycheck and used it on HER. Didn’t ask for anything in return but her love. Yet, she cheated on him with someone who didn’t give a f*ck about her. The guy she was cheating with mistreated her so many times, and she shed more tears for him than she did with the guy she was with. I don’t even remember a time when the good guy made her cry! And everytime she confided in me about her infidelity, it pissed me off every time. I envied her because she had a good man. I couldn’t find a good man to save my life. The man that she was with, he’s also a friend of mine and although he drove me crazy and made me want to punch him half the time in high school, he was a sweetheart. He admired her, yet she didn’t appreciate him.

After my experiences, I;ve learned that when you have a good man in your possession, appreciate him! As women, we too go after men for the wrong reasons. We go after men because of their looks, money, and “swag”. But at the end of the day, none of these are what makes the man who he is. A leopard’s skin may be beautiful but his heart is evil. That same good looking man may be the same man who has psychological issues and will raise his hand to a woman quicker than he will to a man. That man with money may be the same man that milk you for all the money that you yourself have worked hard for, and still have his money! That man with “swag” may be the same man that uses that same “swag” to get other females while he’s lying in your house, eating your food, using your phone and not paying a damn thing! A man shouldn’t be judged by his words, but by his actions. I’ve also noticed that men who come from rough backgrounds, the men who have made some bad decisions in their pasts, SOME of them really are good men. They’ve just made dumb decisions.

A very good example would be the ex-couple that lives beneath me. The female, who I absolutely cannot stand, is selfish, narrow-minded, and ignorant. There have been so many days and nights when my mother and I would hear them arguing over HER infideility. By the way the man would sound, you could hear in his voice that not only was he angry, but he was hurt as well. Here stands a woman that he truly loves. Here stands a woman that he wants to settle down with. This woman has made some bad decisions herself. And even though she has the mentality of a ghetto hoodrat, he still loves her with all of it. He wants to make her his wife possibly, but what does she want to do? She wants to sleep with other men. Once again, this pisses me off! Why? This man has made some mistakes himself. Clearly, he doesn’t want to continue living the life of a criminal. He wants to turn his life around. He wants to take a step in doing that by making her his last woman. He could easily go out and find a woman that is ten times better than her, but he wants to stick by her. If a man stands by a woman and takes all her bullsh*t in the process, HE’S A KEEPER! And let’s be honest, us as women can be a handful. I know I can. Not too many men will stand by you even when you’re being a complete b*tch.

I’m going to end it like this. Not only do we need to stop putting the good men in the friend zone, we also need to recognize that good men that we do have and start appreciating them. We all need to take a look in the mirror ( take a really hard look ) and remember that there is ALWAYS another woman willing to love a man the way we SHOULD be loving him.

Here We Go Again......

Sat, 16 Jun 2012 17:24:10 -0400

I believe I wrote a blog about this same particular situation before. Females today have the mind frame that since they are the mothers of these men children, that they own him and he isn’t supposed to talk to other women. I can see if the female and the man were married but THEY ARE NOT! It is SICKENING!

I’m on my Facebook and I’m seeing through my newsfeed an argument between two females, one of them I am acquainted with. All I could do is shake my head. One, Facebook is a social networking site, meaning contacting old friends and family members, actually networking. But people today look at Facebook as a gateway to be tough guys, start drama, and hold arguments. Once again, it is SICKENING. It’s IMMATURE….where is your self respect? And what pissed me off more is the fact that the female that I am acquainted with just wanted to argue and argue and argue. The other female was just saying “Ok, whatever, God bless you.” I have to admit, I am proud of the other female and I respect her. Clearly she has more respect for herself than to argue over something so small and dumb, OVER FACEBOOK! Ladies, we are not teenagers! We’re no longer in high school. My younger sister is starting high school in September and SHE doesn’t even do that. My young cousin is a freshman, SHE DOESN’T EVEN DO THAT! The female that I am acquainted with is my age just like the other female. I would expect my acquaintance’s actions to come from the other female because she isn’t a parent like my acquaintance. And that’s what makes the whole situation so pathetic. YOU ARE A PARENT! What are you teaching your son/daughter? Because in my opinion, you’re teaching them nothing that can boost their future. You’re teaching them to choose the wrong battles and to fight those battles with the wrong weapons. This is the reason why so many youth are dying. We fight for the wrong things. Instead of fighting for a voice, we’re fighting for respect. Newsflash, people, RESPECT is not something we fight for. We exert self-respect. Others see the respect that we give ourselves and others, and for that they respect us. Now don’t get me wrong, if someone disrespects you, of course you put them back in their place and shut their ass down. But you don’t need your fists or Facebook to do it, all you need is your voice.

By arguing over Facebook and having the mindframe that your babymother/babyfather belongs to you, you’re not exerting self-respect and you’re not exerting dignity. You’re exerting the opposite.

Another thing that had pissed me off about my acquaintance is her immature decision to keep her child away from his father. Reality check ladies, THE WORST thing you could ever do is keep your child away from his/her father if the father wants to be a part of his child’s life. The child is his just as much as he/she is yours. The child didn’t ask to be here. Just because you and the father are not getting along doesn’t give you the right to dictate whether or not the father can see his child. There are not too many men who’ll take responsibility for a life or lives that they helped create. If you’re lucky to have a man who takes care of his responsibility, be happy and be proud. Don’t be immature and don’t be childish.

Fame Doesn't Make You Any Less of a Human

Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:34:00 -0500

The world experienced another shock in the music world yesterday. Whitney Houston, a singer, actress, producer, and very admired idol in the music world passed away. Like others such as Michael Jackson, Ray Charles and even Don Cornelius, Whitney Houston dealed with stressful situations, and also like others, she handled it in her own way. I’m still in shock and hurt that Ms. Houston is no longer with us physically and it is pissing me the hell off with the ignorant ass comments.

Yes, she was a very successful artist and she was very well admired. But she was also human. Her flaws didn’t make her any less of a human and neither did fame. Clearly, Ms. Houston showed that throughout her life and career. Ms. Houston was also a mother, daughter, friend and wife. A well respected one at that. Did she have her issues, yes. But who hasn’t. No one has the right to judge anyone. So when i hear and read things as in “She was a crackhead,” or “It was expected,” I’m going to say this….SHUT THE F*CK UP!! Ms. Houston wasn’t the first to suffer with drug addiction and she isn’t going to be the last. We have musicians now who have suffered from drug addiction and they are still living healthy productive lives. They are still respected. How is Ms. Houston any different? You judged her for her addictions, you even judged her for her marriage to Bobby Brown. The woman is dead, please let her rest in peace. Have some respect for her daughter!! Bobbi Kristina has just lost her mother. She is hurting, she is going through a very rough time right now. It isn’t helping with the ignorant, narrow-minded comments. R.I.P. Whitney Houston. You will be greatly missed nd we will always love you.

"Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions,..."

Sat, 10 Dec 2011 20:11:13 -0500

“Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become characteristics. Watch your characteristics, they become your destiny<3”

There Comes a Time When We Stop Being Children nd Start Being Adults. Everyone Just Has Their Own Time

Sat, 12 Nov 2011 20:59:45 -0500

Sometimes I wish that people had an adult mind frame, because that would make the life a whole lot easier. But life isn’t meant to be easy, because it’s worth having. It’s the people in your life that you have to decide whether they belong in your life or not. And in my opinion, if you’re not an adult, you don’t belong in my life.

I had a conversation with an old friend a few days ago. I had told him how me and my best friend were kind of at odds about a situation regarding her boundaries concerning her friends and her boyfriend. He had told me to give her a call, and I didn’t do it at that time. But today, as I was studying for a quiz, my mind wouldn’t let me until I picked up the phone and called her. When I did call her, everything came naturally, and I felt a whole lot better. I felt better because I took an adult step in fixing an issue. I could’ve said f*ck her and everything that comes with her, but that would be childish. The thing about friendships is that you have your ups and downs. And if you’ve been friends with that person for years, the arguments that you have shows your growth, not as friends, but as individuals. Not only did I see her growth, but I saw mine. Because had we had the exact same argument years ago, I wouldn’t have handled it the way I did in the present. Being an adult is more than the physical, it’s the mental as well. A lot of people don’t think of it like that. As soon as a person turns 18 or 21, “I’m grown, I’m grown!” No you’re not. Not until you handle life’s problems in an adult manner.

The same thing applies to the opposite sex. Both men and women handle relationship problems childishly, and wonder why the relationship failed. It failed because you’re little kids in an adult relationship. If a man/woman wrongs you, don’t go around slandering his/her name. If you get the chance, tell them how you feel about the situation. Whether they care or not, it shouldn’t really bother you if they don’t, because that shows you that you was dealing with a child, and now that the child is out of your adult relationship, it makes room for the other adult. And when that child finally grows up, he/she will realize where they were wrong. They will realize that they lost a good thing that they cannot get back. You can’t worry about everybody else. Just worry about yourself because all you have is yourself.

Get It Together Ladies

Sun, 18 Sep 2011 23:03:22 -0400

As I’m alive to see another day I’m seeing more and more things that make me angry and sad at the same time. I’m seeing too many teenage girls who are either pregnant or have a child, but I’m seeing very few of those same girls actually being mothers. I’m seeing too many females, both teenagers and grown women giving themselves to the wrong man, but I’m seeing very few realizing there worth, or even worse, degrading their worths themselves. It’s sad. If there is one thing that I can say about men is that they know their worths and have more respect for themselves. They don’t let the little ass boys give them a bad name, and when they call themselves men, they have the evidence to back it up. So why don’t my fellow women have that? Why are you selling yourself short? Why are doing what other people want you to do instead of doing what’s best for you? All I’m hearing is “I’m independent,” or “I got money.” But are you really independent? Are you working and taking care of yourself, or is a man doing it and you’re just taking credit for what you’re not doing? Are you working for your money? Or is the government just giving to you? I’m not knocking anyone on welfare because there are some people who need a little help to stand on their own. But I am talking to those who take advantage of government assistance. I’m seeing too many females like that around where I’m at. I’m talking to those females who are having children for the wrong reasons. I’m talking to those females who are quick to try to hurt other people because of their success, instead of being inspired by those same people to do the same. No one is better than anyone. But if you’re working overtime just to bring someone down for no valid reason, call me a hypocrite but the person that you’re trying to bring down is better than you. They’re better than you because they’re not overpowered by your negativity but they don’t let you overpower their positivity. They’re better than you because they know that they deserve better and that they can achieve it, and that unlike you, they don’t need to belittle others to make themselves feel big. They know that their ambition, their motivation is within them. Their fate is in no one’s hands but their own. Stop playing the victim. Stop punishing the good men for what the boys have done to you in the past. Stop looking for someone else to take care of you and start taking care of yourself. Love yourself first. If you don’t respect yourself, how can anyone respect you. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect a man to love you? Think about it.

"to live is to suffer to survive is to find meaning in the suffering"

Fri, 19 Aug 2011 21:36:43 -0400

“to live is to suffer to survive is to find meaning in the suffering”

- (via noobstaclesnoboundries)